we all go through the same thing differently

that’s what someone wise beyond her years told me this morning.

I’m going to try to remember that and try hard not to pass judgement so quickly on others. TRY anyway. Or at least maybe keep my mouth shut when I have nothing good to say. It’s well known that I don’t suffer fools. Jet always says I have zero EQ. That’s very true. If I think you’re an idiot, you’ll prob see it on my face without me having to say anything. There’s really only a small circle of important people that get a somewhat judgement free card with me. Everyone else is held to my standard. Failing which you get judged, rated and ranked by my standards.

See it’s not that I don’t have empathy. It’s that my way of showing empathy is putting myself in their shoes, only maybe cause I deal with things completely differently, I can’t understand what they are going through. I know I don’t deal with emotions well, in fact I’m super good at compartmentalising things and emotions.  My way of dealing with things is just to solve it or not deal with it. It’s probably some kind of defence mechanism and the things I don’t want to deal with get buried deep in the reccesses of my brain and never gets dealt with. Just buried and forgotten.

So because I don’t deal, I don’t get what some people go through and it’s as if I see the world in black and white when it really is shades of grey. Oh well. I will try to remember this. I think it’s good advice.

I think life is about to throw me some curve balls and this is a reminder to myself to be kinder to the world out there. I remember reading somewhere a long time ago that when it doubt, assume good intentions. I think that’s good advice too.

*takes a breath and that plunge*