For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
my family (this includes the 4 legged ones)
have tried to make a conscious effort to spend more time with the family in the last couple of months, cause at the end of the day, they are what matters most.
mom single-handedly raised me and has been a great role model of fearlessness and independence.
jet has got to be the most patient person on this earth to put up with all my idiosyncrasies.
and the maos shown me what unconditional love is. no matter what we do (intentional or not) like feed them late, poke them, hug them when they don’t want to be hugged, they still love us inspite / despite it all. hahaha.
This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.
okay slightly over a month, heh and SOMEONE forgot about it and was hmming and umming when I called to ask him the most fearful 7 words a woman can say.. DO YOU KNOW WHAT DAY IT IS?! heh. considering this is probably the only anniversary we’d agree on, you’d think someone would you know.. remember?!
anyway, sorry for the lack of posts, I’ve been busy since I got back to work and to be honest, I’m kinda stuck writing on the events that happened on the actual day. It’s not that I don’t remember, or that it’s all a blur or even that it happened too fast, quite the opposite, there’s so much to write!!! from waking up in the morning to tea ceremonies to the actual wedding, every bit has so much detail and so much I have to say, I’ll probably have to break it down into several posts so that it doesn’t feel like so much at one go.
those of you who have me on facebook, you’d notice that the actual day wedding photos are also not up.. there are just too many frigging photos to go through, and I iz lazy.
anyway, since the wedding is over, I’m going to continue using this blog to write about the life of the au-chews post wedding here. So far, we’ve
- celebrated halloween’s at Sue’s in crazy costumes!
- become aunty and uncle (two weeks into the marriage) Jet’s Sis-in-law gave birth… and now I have a very cute niece with extremely chubby cheeks and slits for eyes so she always looks sneaky when she is looking at you.. hahaha..
- we’ve got our letter from HDB asking us for documents for our loan application which means we’re getting our house keys soon!
I’ve also started receiving the when are you going to have kids question… At first I tried honesty which was.. no kids, want cats. the reaction to this was
- strange looks and uncomfortable laughter
- followed by the you’ll want kids speech
- followed by sometimes, let me tell you a funny story about my kid so that you will want kids too (okay i dont mind this so much.. cause some of them are really funny… )
then I tried, what i thought was a Singaporean answer “don’t want, bringing up kids not easy plus they’re very ex you know” people tend to just jump straight to step two or sometimes even tell you that that’s not a good enough reason.. (WTF.. )
THEN i tried i’m not ready.. this seems to get people off my back….I know it kinda implies that we will want this in the future but if they shut up for now.. I’m okay..
All of these reasons are true.. I
- really want a cat, people dream of babies, I dream of a warm fuzzy butt to cuddle up with at night…
- think children are blood ex and HDBs are just not conducive to having kids (the rooms are so small!, of the three bedrooms, one room will be our bedroom, one for the games room and the final one I’m hoping to use as a wardrobe room.. okay Jet hasn’t signed of on that last room yet.. hur hur hur) and
- We’re like ginat kids ourselves and I don’t see that changing in the near future.
I’m not annoyed by the questions, but I’m just starting to get irritated with the ‘ayah you’ll want kids eventually’ bingoing.. .. if you’re so sure then why you ask me if i want kids or not.. waste time only.. And just cause i think my niece is cute doesn’t mean I have baby lust.. I’m just more fond of cats.. heh..
oh in other news… I’ve also cut my hair.. SHORT! i’ve been waiting for the wedding to be over so i can finally cut my hair (i haven’t had short hair since i was 5 and well, people thought I was a boy not a girl back then.. sigh). Much to Jet’s dismay, it is super short.. though i think i can go shorter.. and i’m considering keeping this hair do for a while..the hair dries in like 15 mins!!! and i can shower faster than before!!! WOOT.. i hate bathing so anything to cut short the process is a PLUS!
anyway photos and actual wedding day post(s) will be up eventually.. HUR HUR HUR..
- call dress maker and make appt, get measured, discuss designs etc
- work out band details – settle terms and logistics etc
- start looking for make up artiste(s)
- start looking for photographers
- start looking for videographers
- send out save the date cards
- get both sides to sort out their invite lists
well, technically, we’re already married. We’ve had our civil ceremony more than a year back but now comes the time when we have to get off our bums and actually go through the entire traditional ceremony and have me in a big white gown.
There’s so many things to be done! I’m already having panic attacks and we’ve only started the planning process. I feel the time line is already very tight considering the wedding is to happen in Nov this year. It usually takes a good 12 mths to plan something and we’re entering it 4 months late. GROANS.
You see, we initially wanted to do a beach side wedding with good food and close friends and family joining us in our celebrations after the whole morning affair. Unfortunately, the mother in law came to me one day and asked if I/we could reconsider these plans. After much thought and realising how much this meant to her, I gave in and agreed to this big wedding.
Do I resent the decision? To be honest, yes a little. I mean the beach wedding was my dream wedding and well, this is hers. But I figured we could always do both and also seriously, I did not want this hanging over my head in years to come. At the end of the day, we were already married and having good relations with the in laws was more important in the bigger scheme of things. Besides, we could always have our beach wedding as an anniversary / renewal of vows much later in life.
So anyway, I decided, since we are doing this, we might as well do it in my/our style and at least enjoy the day. I’m glad for the various friends that have volunteered to help out and already are to make our big day a great one.