What is your most treasured memory?

HMMM.

I have been thinking about this for quite a while [ok, by a while, I mean since I wrote that last post in July.] I still don’t know what my most treasured memory is. And it’s not because I don’t have one ok? I think I have too many so I can’t figure out which one is most treasured. I also have a very good memory so it’s really hard for me to narrow down. In no particular order, here are the few that come to mind.

When jet proposed – HAHAHHAHA he pretended to tie his shoelace and I was caught off guard resulting in me saying. OK. and because I took too long, he started yelling that I should hurry the hell up cause it was getting painful to kneel on granite. HAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAH

when we brought either of the cats home. esp Melvin – For the first time in my life,I was fully responsible for another’s!

when I got passed my mandarin at O levels! much jumping for joy over the surprise grade. HAHAHA

the first time we travelled to Japan – Everything was amazing and I couldn’t get over how pretty the cherry blossoms were

the first time we went scuba diving -Just that feeling of the calmness of the sea on my face and being fully submerged in the water – totally amazing

the many sail trips we went on – including the big storm we faced one night which ripped the shelter we had on board. Clinging on for dear life describes this quite aptly

the shenanigans we got up to in school with my merry band of friends without going into details, rando light saber paper fights and cartwheels involved.

the wedding – AKA the biggest party I ever threw!

Our first zouk out together  – dancing in the rain till the sun came out

Our last zouk out in 2015 – where took the day off to nap and sat on the sand to listen to the acts cause we were tired.

I think I’m pretty lucky, too many good ones to pick from. Incidentally, today is our 6th wedding anniversary*. So here’s a photo of us 6 years after our really awesome party. May we always have too many good memories to pick our most treasured one. whatsapp-image-2016-10-16-at-13-51-40

*as usual, we forgot and Jet could not remember how many years we’ve been married. lucky we have the mother to remind us about things like this. 

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 

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What do you value most in a friendship?

Oh wow it’s been an entire month since I’ve last updated this. Life has been keeping me busy.  New job and new priorities. That’s a post for another time.

Ok so back to the qn.

Genuineness. I think it’s important to have friends that are real and sincere. They don’t always have to agree with you but they will always be straight up with you. I appreciate my friends for their ability to say, hello wake up your idea understand? UNDERSTAND?!  

And even if they still don’t get why you are doing what you’re doing. or understand but don’t agree. they will be there for you regardless.

Recent life events has made me so much more appreciative of my nearest and dearest. You know who you are. Thank you.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 


What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

silly as it sounds, it’s adopting Mao and having him come out of his shell.

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draw me like one of your french girls

If you’ve read my earlier posts (here and here) on what he was like when we first got him, you’ll understand how incredibly hard it was for us and him for the first couple of months. We barely got any sleep, melvin lost a tooth and no one was happy. And then you have him now, 2.5 yrs later, less fearful (less but he’s still a fraidy cat) and asking for attention, demanding for food, cuddling with me or jet and even playing with melvin when it suits him (he is, at the end of a day, a cat).

 

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Is that fud?

This year, he’s started to hang out with me more and just chill with me in the mornings while I do work in the living room and even occasionally giving me a head bump to ask for attention.

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FUD?

And just two nights ago, I had some friends come over and he didn’t immediately run off which is such a big milestone for us. he hissed but he stayed where he was. And even after he walked off (not ran), he came back to observe us. It’s been almost 3 years since we’ve adopted him and I am so proud of how far he’s come.

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#oldmanmao

 

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 


we all go through the same thing differently

that’s what someone wise beyond her years told me this morning.

I’m going to try to remember that and try hard not to pass judgement so quickly on others. TRY anyway. Or at least maybe keep my mouth shut when I have nothing good to say. It’s well known that I don’t suffer fools. Jet always says I have zero EQ. That’s very true. If I think you’re an idiot, you’ll prob see it on my face without me having to say anything. There’s really only a small circle of important people that get a somewhat judgement free card with me. Everyone else is held to my standard. Failing which you get judged, rated and ranked by my standards.

See it’s not that I don’t have empathy. It’s that my way of showing empathy is putting myself in their shoes, only maybe cause I deal with things completely differently, I can’t understand what they are going through. I know I don’t deal with emotions well, in fact I’m super good at compartmentalising things and emotions.  My way of dealing with things is just to solve it or not deal with it. It’s probably some kind of defence mechanism and the things I don’t want to deal with get buried deep in the reccesses of my brain and never gets dealt with. Just buried and forgotten.

So because I don’t deal, I don’t get what some people go through and it’s as if I see the world in black and white when it really is shades of grey. Oh well. I will try to remember this. I think it’s good advice.

I think life is about to throw me some curve balls and this is a reminder to myself to be kinder to the world out there. I remember reading somewhere a long time ago that when it doubt, assume good intentions. I think that’s good advice too.

*takes a breath and that plunge*


Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

Yes. Getting a tattoo. I’ve always liked the idea of getting one. [before this, it would have been getting a cat and then two cats! achievement unlocked!]

Why haven’t I done it?

Finding a pattern / phrase you like that will be on your body permanently is not something I want to get on impulse. So I’ve been taking my time to mull over this. Over the last two years I’ve whittled it down to two designs and I think I’ve finally decided what and where. When? well. stay tuned!

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 


If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

HMMM

[also OH in the Au-Chew household : 4D numbers!! / will liverpool ever win the premiership (NEVER!)]

aside from work which has been keeping me busy, this question has had me stumped for weeks.

I have no idea man. I think i might want to know when my nearest and dearest will be leaving me so I can be prepared but other than that, I don’t think there’s anything I’d need to know about myself or my life that I don’t already know or want to know. I was literally just telling a friend today, I don’t like lying and that includes lying to myself. as in i physically get squirmish over a lie so at best, I’ll lie by omission but if asked point blank about something, it’s unlikely I’d lie about it. So in this way, I don’t think I consciously hide things from myself.

I suppose knowing what stocks / shares / lottery numbers to buy etc wouldn’t be a bad idea. Who would say no to more free money?

would you want to know anything?

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 

 


If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

This is easy. I would like the ability to  be clean at a blink of an eye.

Most people who know me know that I don’t like to shower. Before you give me that look of horror, let me be very clear: I like being clean I just don’t like the process of getting clean. For the record, that doesn’t mean I don’t do it. Let me say this again. I STILL SHOWER OK? I just feel one can do other things instead of shower. like write. or surf web, or read a book.

Now that I think about it, I think the main reason I don’t like showers is because I can’t do anything else while I’m showering. WOW. that’s quite a major breakthrough actually. hur hur hur. All this while, some people [you know who you are] kept saying I was just being gross (ONE JUST CALLED ME UNSANITARY!). BUT SEE! it’s not true! I am quite pleased with this revelation btw. Cause stupid people keep calling me gross and stinky.

So anyway, yes I would basically like to be clean without any effort. Blink my eyes and smell like roses? hell yeah.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday. except this time. it’s on a Monday because reasons.