silly as it sounds, it’s adopting Mao and having him come out of his shell.
If you’ve read my earlier posts (here and here) on what he was like when we first got him, you’ll understand how incredibly hard it was for us and him for the first couple of months. We barely got any sleep, melvin lost a tooth and no one was happy. And then you have him now, 2.5 yrs later, less fearful (less but he’s still a fraidy cat) and asking for attention, demanding for food, cuddling with me or jet and even playing with melvin when it suits him (he is, at the end of a day, a cat).
This year, he’s started to hang out with me more and just chill with me in the mornings while I do work in the living room and even occasionally giving me a head bump to ask for attention.
And just two nights ago, I had some friends come over and he didn’t immediately run off which is such a big milestone for us. he hissed but he stayed where he was. And even after he walked off (not ran), he came back to observe us. It’s been almost 3 years since we’ve adopted him and I am so proud of how far he’s come.
This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
my family (this includes the 4 legged ones)
have tried to make a conscious effort to spend more time with the family in the last couple of months, cause at the end of the day, they are what matters most.
mom single-handedly raised me and has been a great role model of fearlessness and independence.
jet has got to be the most patient person on this earth to put up with all my idiosyncrasies.
and the maos shown me what unconditional love is. no matter what we do (intentional or not) like feed them late, poke them, hug them when they don’t want to be hugged, they still love us inspite / despite it all. hahaha.
This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.
After we said yes to Mao coming, we started the standard cat arrival prep. set aside litter box in his room, beds, mats, water bowl, food etc and kept telling melvin he was to expect an older brother soon.
We did everything you were supposed to do, when mao finally arrived, we had them bring him in directly to the room and shut the door. While melvin was thrown into another room so he wouldn’t see him coming in. His old family passed over his old bed, carrier, some toys and food / litter etc and just like that, we became parents to another cat.
Now the introducing of Mao to Melvin and vice versa was one of the toughest things I’ve had to do. First couple of days, we kept Mao in his room so he could just get used to his new home. In fact, I spent most of the first week just sitting in the room with him, reading, sleeping and just ignoring him to get him used to our smell. During this time, Mao was still afraid of everything including us and would constantly run from us to hide or hiss.
Unfortunately, Melvin was also not the least bit happy that there was a new cat in the house and kept posturing outside the room and meowing. I’ve never heard him get so mad at anything before and kept having to reassure him.
After Mao seemed somewhat less afraid of us, we moved on to site swopping in weeks 2 and 3. What this means is that you swop cats and play with them in each other’s area. So Melvin got to into Mao’s room and Mao got the run of the house for a while. It did not really go well, cause Mao kept trying to hide. and Melvin was just distracted by the fact that there was a cat outside the room. During the first week, there was still almost no improvement. Between the meowing, hissing and worrying about both cats, it almost felt like we had a newborn in the house as we were getting up constantly to hush Melvin and got very little sleep.
In week three, there seemed to be some improvement. Melvin stopped trying to attack Mao and Mao was hissing less. In our sleep deprived state, we thought this was the breakthrough we were looking for and decided to let the cats have the run of the house for one night.
WE THOUGHT WRONG. We woke up to screaming cat sounds and a loud THUD sound and Melvin looking like this.
YAR MY STUPID BOY LOST A TOOTH. And you know what, he was probably the one lunging at Mao and either due to clumsiness ran into a wall or just Mao’s sheer size couldn’t actually bite him and lost his tooth in the process [I swear that cat is built like a truck with elephant or hippo hide].
The morning ended in tears on my end and apologising to Mel for not realising he wasn’t ready for it and calling the vet & my good friend Jenny, who came readily at 7 plus to pick the cats up to go to the vets for a check up.
True enough, Melvin had to go for dental surgery to remove the tooth but Mao was perferctly fine. 700 bucks later, everyone was back to at home shaken up but ok.
mao came to us on Sept 28 2013. Someone had posted an adoption notice for a adult cat of 7 yrs on a fb group and i was like. OMG he looks like melvin, We must have him. (ok actually i’m like that with ALL cats, whether they look like melvin or not. bhahaha) so yes This someone turned out to be Dana who was asking for a friend / co worker? whose cat had to be looked after by her sister cause her mom in law refused to let the cat stay in the same home as her children. Sister was moving out of the parent’s home and so could no longer take care of the cat.
Dana by the way runs an awesome cake / pasteriere shop called Out of the Cake Box! been meaning to go by her place to say hello and try some but so far no time.
so anyway, bring mao home campaign starts with me constantly showing jet the photo of mao over and over again until he is like OK we can go see but no promises. HUZZAH!
we go visit the family with my mom and it soon became obvious that this cat was not going to survive on the streets if this family abandoned him. Not saying that they were, but they were also getting pretty desperate. He also wouldn’t survive a shelter.
He was a very timid cat. Like everything made him jump and as a result, hiss cause he was so scared. (As I am typing this, said cat is sprawled on my sofa, legs in the air, belleh for the world to see. HA!).
We left telling the family that we would think it through. By then i was determined that we bring mao home just cause he was never going to make it anywhere else.
So jet said ok, my mom said er are you sure. I said yes! and so we told the family we would take him!
god it’s been too long. my last post here was like 1.5 years ago. *flexes fingers* it’s good to be back!
Let’s see quick life update since the last post (and even then, it didn’t exactly say anything about my life).
- We’ve had an addition to the family! No no, not a baby, but a new mao whose name incidentally is Mao Mao. No, we didn’t name him and prefer to call him AH MAO. We got him about Oct 2013 when he was 8. He is a fatty bom bom, greedy, scaredy cat who is terrified of everything. Less so now but we saw him run away from a piece of paper he slipped on while walking just yesterday so HMM. Melvin and him aren’t friends but they now tolerate each other and sometimes we think they are playing with each other. not sure. It might just be that Melvin was being a dick and slapping him. We can never tell. Mao is a sweet boy who has come out of his shell a lot more in the last year and has been known to come up to our beds and release a load WOAH when he is demanding we feed him. He also recently bit me on the boob but that’s a tale for another time. Here’s the silly boy in all his fattiness.
- We’ve / I’ve started cooking a lot more and recently managed to cook lamb chops after years of not attempting to cooking it cause it looked so hard. Interestingly a friend was commented how weird this was considering that I could cook steak but freaked about lamb. but oh well. now we can have lamb.
- I got injured while dancing a while back and never really went back. I hope to go back this year. We’ll see. if not, at least continue exercising
- post nepal, we’ve been to a few more places including Vietnam which has been on our travel list for so long and a dive trip a year so that’s really fun.
- oh and i’ve started a whisky hobby and kinda really liking cocktail bars in the last year or so. my bank acc and liver are quite unimpressed with me. HAHAHHA.
- OH and I now wear glasses! well at least when i’m reading / in front of comp. so funny story, apparently you’re not suppose to see giant halos when you look at bright lights. i have astigmatism in the 200s. it’s apparently something i’ve always had and er, never realised? this explains why when i switch to LCD/ LED screens i always had to put them super close to my face AND was constantly flagging down the wrong bus. HAHAHA. well that solved that.
think that’s the main major life updates. I’m hoping to get back on the writing horse this year. Have a few ideas for the blog this year including (but not limited to!)
- tracking my reading (another post but i have an awesome reading list that i’m completely obesssed with right now. let’s hope it lasts. I am now on book two.
- recording my cooking. it’s one thing to have pinterest for recipes i have / want to cook but I can’t like add comments / reviews etc so i’m going to do it here.
- there was this weird list of questions someone developed last year i think where if you went on a blind date and asked that complete stranger that list of questions you’ll fall in love with him / her. HAHAH. look i find the questions fairly introspective so i’m going to attempt answering those questions myself and see where that leads me.
- write about my trips. OMG. that nepal one never got done. i will attempt to finish that and my japan trip this year.
so that’s it for now. LEGGO 2016!!!