Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

sometimes. when it’s a big deal call and i want to make sure i have all the points i want to cover? like not word for word but almost like reciting a to do list for the call?


this is such a weird qn. How would this accelerate intimacy???


This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.

the story of mao

mao first day

mao came to us on Sept 28 2013. Someone had posted an adoption notice for a adult cat of 7 yrs on a fb group and i was like. OMG he looks like melvin, We must have him. (ok actually i’m like that with ALL cats, whether they look like melvin or not. bhahaha) so yes This someone turned out to be Dana who was asking for a friend / co worker? whose cat had to be looked after by her sister cause her mom in law refused to let the cat stay in the same home as her children. Sister was moving out of the parent’s home and so could no longer take care of the cat.

Dana by the way runs an awesome cake / pasteriere shop called Out of the Cake Box! been meaning to go by her place to say hello and try some but so far no time.

so anyway, bring mao home campaign starts with me constantly showing jet the photo of mao over and over again until he is like OK we can go see but no promises. HUZZAH!

we go visit the family with my mom and it soon became obvious that this cat was not going to survive on the streets if this family abandoned him. Not saying that they were, but they were also getting pretty desperate. He also wouldn’t survive a shelter.

He was a very timid cat. Like everything made him jump and as a result, hiss cause he was so scared. (As I am typing this, said cat is sprawled on my sofa, legs in the air, belleh for the world to see. HA!).


We left telling the family that we would think it through. By then i was determined that we bring mao home just cause he was never going to make it anywhere else.

So jet said ok, my mom said er are you sure. I said yes! and so we told the family we would take him!

watch the world come alive tonight…

Today this could be, the greatest day of our lives
Before it all ends, before we run out of time
Stay close to me,
Stay close to me
Watch the world come alive tonight
Stay close to me

– Greatest Day, Take That

I have spent the last two hours watching Take That MTVs in prepartion* for their concert next month and I totally feel like a teenager again. HAHAHA.

*It just dawned on me last night that the last time I listened to their stuff was just around where Robbie had left them / Never Forget era and while I can sing most of their hits from that era by heart, I only knew two songs post reunion. So in order to prepare for my fan girling at the concert, I started listening to their new stuff last night and it is AWESOME.

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Not really.

Not in the movie star sort of way. I would like to be respected amongst my peers / people in my industry for doing good work. but that’s it. Kinda like my not so veiled idol Pat Law and her awesome agency good stuph. If I could choose, that’s the sort of fame I’d like.

Would YOU like to be famous? and in what way?

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.

2016 Book Challenge Updates


2 books down. 38 to go. 2 recommendations added to the list.

Just finished: Symbiont by Mira Grant. not too impressed with this book. Draggy is the word to describe it. Doesn’t help that I do not like the main character at all. AUGH. I can’t wait to read the last book and be done with it.

Currently reading: The Intimate adventures of a London Call girl.  It’s a bit.. trying too hard. Especially since I used to read her actual blog which was def more witty and more.. blog like. This book is very.. SEX SEX SEX. not very witty comment then SEX SEX SEX. quite blah. This was going to replace Red House for #8 on the list but I think i’m going to give up on this book and actually read Red House. Mark Haddon is also the dude behind the curious incident about the dog at night time. 

  1. Book based on fairy tale
  2. National Book Award winner 
  3. YA bestseller
  4. Book you haven’t read since high school
  5. Book set in your home state – emily of emily hill? i’m ashamed to say i’ve never read it.
  6. Book translated to English – Maybe Blindness by Jose Saramago. I’ve watched the movie and it was very disturbing and the reviews seem quite polarised, you either hate it or love it. I’m not sure how I feel about the movie tbh.
  7. Romance set in the future
  8. Book set in Europe – maybe The Red House by Mark Haddon.
  9. Book that’s under 150 pages
  10. New York Times’ bestseller
  11. Book that’s becoming a movie this year  Maybe the Danish Girl. Also, really? WOOL is becoming a movie? I still don’t know how I feel about that series.
  12. Book recommended by someone you just met
  13. A self-improvement book
  14. A book you can finish in a day
  15. a book written by a celebrity – maybe that Mindy Kaling book if i can find it.
  16. a political memoir – hmm. well i have been meaning to read that LKY book. so maybe.
  17. a book at least 100 years older than you
  18. a book that’s more than 600 pages – maybe i’ll get round to finishing A feast of crows by George R R Martin. This is assuming he finishes the bloody series this year.
  19. a book from oprah’s book club
  20. A science fiction novel – THIS IS DONE. I read Parasite by Mira Grant  and it was awesome (it’s also a reread cause I wanted to read the sequel and could not remember much of it, and I don’t care. It still counts).
  21. a book recommended by a family member
  22. a graphic novel – current plan is to read Sandman by Neil Gaiman. I know I know, how is it that I’ve not read this. I do not know but hey at least I’m going to read it now?
  23. a book that is published in 2016
  24. a book with a protaganist who has your occupation – er…
  25. a book that takes place during Summer
  26. a book and its prequel
  27. a murder mystery
  28. a book written by a comedian – i want to read Yes Please by Amy Poehler, if it is anything like Tina Fey’s bossy pants it will be a fun read.
  29. a dystopian novel
  30. a book with a blue cover*READING NOW* This is Done! Symbiont by Mira Grant. Sequel to Parasite (book 20 on this list)
  31. a book of poetry – Recommended by Lisa C. TS Eliot’s Cats. 
  32. the first book you see in a bookstore
  33. a classic from the 20th century – maybe catch 22 which has been on my book shelf for the longest time or
  34. a book from the library
  35. an autobiography
  36. a book about a road trip
  37. a book about a culture you’re unfamiliar with
  38. a satirical book – terry pratchett counts right? i have the last few of his books left to read.
  39. a book that takes place on an island
  40. a book that’s guaranteed to bring you joy – Recommended by Wee Jin – Spark Joy, An illustrated master class on the art of organising and tidying up by Marie Kondo. HMMM. the irony of it all considering how messy I am. Most people have forgotten the colour of my desk at work cause it’s always covered with papers.. Er.. organised mess? 


Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Jackson Galaxy – Cat Daddy Yo!


I know, most people will pick some famous person like I don’t know (strangely I can only think of dead famous people like MLK, Gandhi, LKY, blah blah blah) or like movie stars. But I want to have dinner with Jackson Galaxy.

I mean come on, if I were to pick a super famous person like Angelina Jolie or the Dalai Lama I would be so intidmated I wouldn’t know to say. Or what to talk about. I mean seriously, what would you have to say to the Dalai Lama and how would that conversation pan out? It just sounds super awkward and like small talk-ish.

I could have an actual conversation with Mr Galaxy. He is a cat behaviourist and does a lot of cat rescue. I can see myself sharing a bottle of wine and chatting the night away. From talking about his rescue work, his awesome tv show – My Cat From Hell (which I owe much of my mao knowledge to) to my own cats. HOW AMAZING WOULD THAT BE?! Amazeballs i tell you. AMAZEBALLS.

Who would you invite for dinner and why?

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.

2016 writing exercise because why not?

so, about a year ago, there was a list of questions floating around that was touted to make to random strangers fall in love.

The questions are designed to make those involved reveal a lot of very personal things, starting slowly and building up to more serious topics. Arranged in three sets, the questions start off fairly trival and get more serious as you enter the second and third set.

While I don’t really believe in the mambo jumbo above, I think they’re great as a writing and introspection exercise. A way to get to know myself better and keep on track with writing. So, for the next 36 weeks, I’ll be answering a questions a week. Starting this Sunday and we’ll see where we go from there.

Here are the questions in their entirety.

Set One

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set Two

1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

2. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

3. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

4. What do you value most in a friendship?

5. What is your most treasured memory?

6. What is your most terrible memory?

7. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

8. What does friendship mean to you?

9. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

10. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

11. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

12. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set Three

1. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling …”

2. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”

3. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

4. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

5. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

6. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

7. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

8. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

9. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

10. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

11. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

12. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

So there we have it. woo hoo. exciting times




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