What is your most treasured memory?

HMMM.

I have been thinking about this for quite a while [ok, by a while, I mean since I wrote that last post in July.] I still don’t know what my most treasured memory is. And it’s not because I don’t have one ok? I think I have too many so I can’t figure out which one is most treasured. I also have a very good memory so it’s really hard for me to narrow down. In no particular order, here are the few that come to mind.

When jet proposed – HAHAHHAHA he pretended to tie his shoelace and I was caught off guard resulting in me saying. OK. and because I took too long, he started yelling that I should hurry the hell up cause it was getting painful to kneel on granite. HAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAH

when we brought either of the cats home. esp Melvin – For the first time in my life,I was fully responsible for another’s!

when I got passed my mandarin at O levels! much jumping for joy over the surprise grade. HAHAHA

the first time we travelled to Japan – Everything was amazing and I couldn’t get over how pretty the cherry blossoms were

the first time we went scuba diving -Just that feeling of the calmness of the sea on my face and being fully submerged in the water – totally amazing

the many sail trips we went on – including the big storm we faced one night which ripped the shelter we had on board. Clinging on for dear life describes this quite aptly

the shenanigans we got up to in school with my merry band of friends without going into details, rando light saber paper fights and cartwheels involved.

the wedding – AKA the biggest party I ever threw!

Our first zouk out together  – dancing in the rain till the sun came out

Our last zouk out in 2015 – where took the day off to nap and sat on the sand to listen to the acts cause we were tired.

I think I’m pretty lucky, too many good ones to pick from. Incidentally, today is our 6th wedding anniversary*. So here’s a photo of us 6 years after our really awesome party. May we always have too many good memories to pick our most treasured one. whatsapp-image-2016-10-16-at-13-51-40

*as usual, we forgot and Jet could not remember how many years we’ve been married. lucky we have the mother to remind us about things like this. 

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 


2016 Book Challenge – Sept update

Well. This is probably better known as the ‘dafug did i just read’ update. I haven’t been able to read since completing the last book cause they were just full of WTFery. No really. Let’s begin.

dafug did i just read books.. 

Audition by Ryo Murakami – the last time i updated, I had just finished a bunch of Banana Yoshimoto books and thought I’d expand to other Japanese authors to see if there was anyone else I liked. This book started as a really cool book only it ended up like some Stephen King psycho murder thriller book. And that would have been fine if I knew what I was reading. I DIDN’T. so what you had is me reading this book till 2am in the morning cause it was getting exciting and it was one of those just one more page sort of nights and then BOOMZ. there was gore everywhere. Again, this would have been fine if I was prepared for it all. I was not. I was expecting a happily ever after ending. not mutilate the crap out of people ending. SIGH. This led to me being very wide awake at 2am and traumatised for the rest of the day.

The book is actually very good. The pacing and plot and well, you don’t see the plot twist until it’s too late to stop reading. I just wished I knew what it was before I started reading it. Which brings me to mistake number 2.

Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. See, I thought this was a coming of age sort of book. Like the girl is gone, here is a woman now type thing. BOY WAS I WRONG. ZZZ. again. you’d think i’d learn by now right? Let’s just say this is definitely as far from a coming of age book as you can get. The plot, and its many, many twists in this book, is very, very good. I have to say for a book with so many unlikable characters, especially the main two characters, I actually couldn’t put it down. Again, would have preferred to know what I was reading before I got into this, especially after reading that crazy book literally just before this. ZZZZ.

So after that, I was like OK. ENOUGH. Let’s read something that is definitely NOT a psychological thriller.

Hard boiled Wonderland and the End of the World – Haruki Murakami. Well. The good news – it certainly wasn’t a psychological thriller.  The not so good news. i still don’t know what I just read. I’ve been on a break since reading this book in Mid Aug cause my brain cannot handle more of this shit anymore. hahahhaa.

I also have no idea how these books fit into the list below so I’m going to take some liberal interpretations with them. HAHAHAHhAHA

Currently reading – NOTHING, THANKS A LOT MURAKAMI. BOTH OF YOU.

  1. Book based on fairy tale
  2. National Book Award winner 
  3. YA bestseller
  4. Book you haven’t read since high school
  5. Book set in your home state
  6. Book translated to English –  Moonlight Shadow by Banana Yoshimoto
  7. Romance set in the future
  8. Book set in Europe
  9. Book that’s under 150 pages – Kitchen By Banana Yoshimoto
  10. New York Times’ bestseller –  Perks of being a Wall Flower by Stephen Chbosky
  11. Book that’s becoming a movie this year 
  12. Book recommended by someone you just met
  13. A self-improvement book
  14. A book you can finish in a day – Lake by Banana Yoshimoto
  15. a book written by a celebrity –. Yes, my accent is real by Kunal Nayer. Good stuff.
  16. a political memoir
  17. a book at least 100 years older than you – Black Beauty by Anna Sewell
  18. a book that’s more than 600 pages
  19. a book from oprah’s book club
  20. A science fiction novel – I read Parasite by Mira Grant  and it was awesome (it’s also a reread cause I wanted to read the sequel and could not remember much of it, and I don’t care. It still counts).
  21. a book recommended by a family member
  22. a graphic novel
  23. a book that is published in 2016
  24. a book with a protagonist who has your occupation – *this is done* Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. Well, Amy was a copy writer-ish. It’s prob the closest thing I’ll ever get striking this off the list. [I did say I’d be quite liberal with my intepretation]
  25. a book that takes place during Summer
  26. a book and its prequel
  27. a murder mystery – *this is done* Audition by Ryo Murakami. Yeah this is pretty close to a murder mystery. 
  28. a book written by a comedian
  29. a dystopian novel
  30. a book with a blue coverSymbiont by Mira Grant. Sequel to Parasite (book 20 on this list)
  31. a book of poetry
  32. the first book you see in a bookstore
  33. a classic from the 20th century – Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury
  34. a book from the library
  35. an autobiography
  36. a book about a road trip
  37. a book about a culture you’re unfamiliar with – *this is done* Hard Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World – Haruki Murakami. HAHAHAH all of Murakami’s culture is alien to me. 
  38. a satirical book – terry Pratchett counts right? i have the last few of his books left to read.
  39. a book that takes place on an island
  40. a book that’s guaranteed to bring you joy

12 books in 9 months. SIGH. well. at least I’m still reading I guess?


2016 Book Challenge – June update

WOW it’s been almost three months since my last reading update. The 6 books completed were all read in the last two weeks (granted 3 were short stories and 1 was a children’s book but still!!!). It’s amazing what a beach holiday can do for you.

KIV for now – red house by mark haddon. I have no idea where this was going. and just no.

Thinking of Giving Up – Yes Please! by Amy Poehler. – Think because don’t watch a lot of SNL, I don’t get a lot of what or who she’s talking about. Maybe.

Completed (yay!) – Kitchen, Moonlight Shadow & Lake by Banana Yoshimoto. Yes Three books by her. I think I liked Moonlight Shadow the most and Kitchen the least. But they are all beautifully written. All three tales still resonate with me.

Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury –  This has on my to read list for so long but I felt the ending was very odd. Like the book starts out so strong and was going somewhere. And then it didn’t.

Perks of being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky – it’s um. there’s a lot going on in this book and the ending is quite.. rushed. I don’t like the way it was written, i know it’s meant to be a teenager writing it but it’s very.. flat. I don’t get why there’s such a huge following for this book. I mean I don’t hate it but it’s not great lah.

Black Beauty by Anna Sewell – This was my absolute favourite book growing up and I decided to reread it because it was there. Now reading it again as an adult, I keep wondering if the writer is being passive aggressive about how she thinks people should be. HMMM.

Currently reading –  Audition by Ryu Murakami. Not related to Haruki Murakami. I’ve only read 10 pages but I like what I’ve read so far. And can you tell I am going through a Japanese author roll? Also i have no idea which one this will fall under but don’t care. Read first.

  1. Book based on fairy tale
  2. National Book Award winner 
  3. YA bestseller
  4. Book you haven’t read since high school
  5. Book set in your home state
  6. Book translated to English – *THIS IS DONE* Moonlight Shadow by Banana Yoshimoto
  7. Romance set in the future
  8. Book set in Europe
  9. Book that’s under 150 pages – *THIS IS DONE* Kitchen By Banana Yoshimoto 
  10. New York Times’ bestseller – *THIS IS DONE* Perks of being a Wall Flower by Stephen Chbosky
  11. Book that’s becoming a movie this year 
  12. Book recommended by someone you just met
  13. A self-improvement book
  14. A book you can finish in a day – *THIS IS DONE* Lake by Banana Yoshimoto
  15. a book written by a celebrity –. Yes, my accent is real by Kunal Nayer. Good stuff.
  16. a political memoir
  17. a book at least 100 years older than you – *THIS IS DONE* Black Beauty by Anna Sewell
  18. a book that’s more than 600 pages
  19. a book from oprah’s book club
  20. A science fiction novel – I read Parasite by Mira Grant  and it was awesome (it’s also a reread cause I wanted to read the sequel and could not remember much of it, and I don’t care. It still counts).
  21. a book recommended by a family member
  22. a graphic novel
  23. a book that is published in 2016
  24. a book with a protaganist who has your occupation – er…
  25. a book that takes place during Summer
  26. a book and its prequel
  27. a murder mystery
  28. a book written by a comedian
  29. a dystopian novel
  30. a book with a blue coverSymbiont by Mira Grant. Sequel to Parasite (book 20 on this list)
  31. a book of poetry
  32. the first book you see in a bookstore
  33. a classic from the 20th century – *THIS IS DONE* Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury
  34. a book from the library
  35. an autobiography
  36. a book about a road trip
  37. a book about a culture you’re unfamiliar with
  38. a satirical book – terry pratchett counts right? i have the last few of his books left to read.
  39. a book that takes place on an island
  40. a book that’s guaranteed to bring you joy

HMMM 9 books in 6 months. Oh well. let’s see if we can pick up the pace.


What do you value most in a friendship?

Oh wow it’s been an entire month since I’ve last updated this. Life has been keeping me busy.  New job and new priorities. That’s a post for another time.

Ok so back to the qn.

Genuineness. I think it’s important to have friends that are real and sincere. They don’t always have to agree with you but they will always be straight up with you. I appreciate my friends for their ability to say, hello wake up your idea understand? UNDERSTAND?!  

And even if they still don’t get why you are doing what you’re doing. or understand but don’t agree. they will be there for you regardless.

Recent life events has made me so much more appreciative of my nearest and dearest. You know who you are. Thank you.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 


What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

silly as it sounds, it’s adopting Mao and having him come out of his shell.

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draw me like one of your french girls

If you’ve read my earlier posts (here and here) on what he was like when we first got him, you’ll understand how incredibly hard it was for us and him for the first couple of months. We barely got any sleep, melvin lost a tooth and no one was happy. And then you have him now, 2.5 yrs later, less fearful (less but he’s still a fraidy cat) and asking for attention, demanding for food, cuddling with me or jet and even playing with melvin when it suits him (he is, at the end of a day, a cat).

 

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Is that fud?

This year, he’s started to hang out with me more and just chill with me in the mornings while I do work in the living room and even occasionally giving me a head bump to ask for attention.

fud fud fud?

FUD?

And just two nights ago, I had some friends come over and he didn’t immediately run off which is such a big milestone for us. he hissed but he stayed where he was. And even after he walked off (not ran), he came back to observe us. It’s been almost 3 years since we’ve adopted him and I am so proud of how far he’s come.

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#oldmanmao

 

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday. 


we all go through the same thing differently

that’s what someone wise beyond her years told me this morning.

I’m going to try to remember that and try hard not to pass judgement so quickly on others. TRY anyway. Or at least maybe keep my mouth shut when I have nothing good to say. It’s well known that I don’t suffer fools. Jet always says I have zero EQ. That’s very true. If I think you’re an idiot, you’ll prob see it on my face without me having to say anything. There’s really only a small circle of important people that get a somewhat judgement free card with me. Everyone else is held to my standard. Failing which you get judged, rated and ranked by my standards.

See it’s not that I don’t have empathy. It’s that my way of showing empathy is putting myself in their shoes, only maybe cause I deal with things completely differently, I can’t understand what they are going through. I know I don’t deal with emotions well, in fact I’m super good at compartmentalising things and emotions.  My way of dealing with things is just to solve it or not deal with it. It’s probably some kind of defence mechanism and the things I don’t want to deal with get buried deep in the reccesses of my brain and never gets dealt with. Just buried and forgotten.

So because I don’t deal, I don’t get what some people go through and it’s as if I see the world in black and white when it really is shades of grey. Oh well. I will try to remember this. I think it’s good advice.

I think life is about to throw me some curve balls and this is a reminder to myself to be kinder to the world out there. I remember reading somewhere a long time ago that when it doubt, assume good intentions. I think that’s good advice too.

*takes a breath and that plunge*


Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

Yes. Getting a tattoo. I’ve always liked the idea of getting one. [before this, it would have been getting a cat and then two cats! achievement unlocked!]

Why haven’t I done it?

Finding a pattern / phrase you like that will be on your body permanently is not something I want to get on impulse. So I’ve been taking my time to mull over this. Over the last two years I’ve whittled it down to two designs and I think I’ve finally decided what and where. When? well. stay tuned!

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answering one each Sunday.