If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

This is easy. I would like the ability to  be clean at a blink of an eye.

Most people who know me know that I don’t like to shower. Before you give me that look of horror, let me be very clear: I like being clean I just don’t like the process of getting clean. For the record, that doesn’t mean I don’t do it. Let me say this again. I STILL SHOWER OK? I just feel one can do other things instead of shower. like write. or surf web, or read a book.

Now that I think about it, I think the main reason I don’t like showers is because I can’t do anything else while I’m showering. WOW. that’s quite a major breakthrough actually. hur hur hur. All this while, some people [you know who you are] kept saying I was just being gross (ONE JUST CALLED ME UNSANITARY!). BUT SEE! it’s not true! I am quite pleased with this revelation btw. Cause stupid people keep calling me gross and stinky.

So anyway, yes I would basically like to be clean without any effort. Blink my eyes and smell like roses? hell yeah.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday. except this time. it’s on a Monday because reasons. 


Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

er. right. so my life in 4 mins. HMM.

I had a care free childhood. brought up by a tiger mom. before tiger mom’s were a thing, there was my mother. she is literally a tiger mom cause she is born in the year of the tiger. bahahaha.

I grew up in the western part of Singapore. Moving from holland v / ghim moh area to margret drive and finally settling into sunset way where my mom still lives now. I do not remember much of life before sunset way.

People used to think I was a boy. not just a boy, a Japanese boy. People would come up and ask if she was helping a Japanese family look after their son. For this, I thank my mom for my constant ricebowl haircut. I also did not inherit either of my parent’s double eyelids. They used to tell me they picked me up from the dustbin cause I looked nothing like them growing up.

I was what they call a waterbaby. I love to swim from the moment my uncle got me started when I was 3. I spent a lot of time at the pool and had all sorts of weird tan lines from wearing googles on my face. IIt’s been a while since i’ve swam and I miss it.

I loved school and studying. and was kinda a nerd. I am still closest to my friends I made from my sec school. Uni was when i felt that whole coming of age thing. I felt more comfortable in my skin and finally felt less awkward amongst my peers. I was still a nerd and would spend a lot of time in the library reading academic journals. for fun. during the holidays. (I did say I was a nerd).

I have worked at the same place for the past 11 yrs and counting. I sometimes still can’t believe i’ve been here this long. hahaha

I met Jet while clubbing. Ha! no surprises there. We went to our first zouk out togehter back in 2006 and never looked back. We even took our wedding photos at zouk because that place meant so much to us.

I still have much love for the sea and water. even though i don’t swim much now, I’ve learnt to dive and we’ve made sure we’ve gone for a dive trip every year since. I like the quiet of the sea and being completely enveloped in the calmness of the ocean. I used to sail a lot on my friend’s boat and I hope to pick it up again in the next year or so. I miss our long 3 week sails up to tioman and back. I like falling asleep under the canopy of stars, only to wake up in the morning and be able to just dive into the water for a short swim, come up for breakfast and swim again. rinse and repeat without a care in the world. the only thing we would think about was where to go and what to eat / cook for the next meal.

I love to cook. I wish had more time to do it. Not so much the cleaning up. hahaha. I like to think I’m a decent cook. So far in the past 5 yrs of cooking, i’ve only had one serious fail so not bad lah. I’ve recently gone on to try more Asian dishes like steam fish, chicken, curry, stews. not bad even if i do say so myself. I even broke through my mental barrier of cooking lamb last Christmas which was something that I always felt was really hard to to cook. Apparently it’s not. well

I have two cats. they are the love of my life. they also could not be more different from one another. they are also not friends. which annoys me. I’m secretely jealous of all the cat owners whose cats cuddle and groom each other. mine won’t even sit next to each other. but at least they arent killing each other so I’ll take it.

I love dancing as in serious dance classes type of dance. Lke Jazz and Contemp dance. I like moving to music and being able to leave everything going on in life at the door of the studio. The focus that i need for the class just makes me forget everything else for that 90 mins.

I have recently developed an expensive hobby of whisky appreciation. I try not to think about how much I have spent on this hobby in the last 2 yrs. hahaha.

i realise upon writing this piece that a lot of my hobbies involve me escaping life. HMM. well. ok anyway I think this is the 4 mins or more already so. THE END!

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.


If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Hmm. this is a hard one. I’m of the belief that whatever happens in your past affects who you are, how you deal with it and what you take from it. I think a lot of my growing up phase has shaped who I am today and I’m grateful for that.

I didn’t exactly have the easiest of childhoods – growing up in a single parent household is never easy on parent or on child  – but my mom made it work for us. I think it helped that I have an extremely involved extended family who help out whenever they can in whatever way they can. I don’t look back with like regret / wishing somethings were different so i’m really not sure what I would change about it.

Maybe, and this is a big maybe, if I grew up in a more outwardly loving environment. My family is quite typically stoic asian. we don’t do this hug thing much or say i love yous etc. In fact we show our love in rather odd ways, now that I think of it. Think more like nagging the living day lights out of you or asking how your grades are (and if they weren’t up to the family standard, offer you help) or exclaimations of weight gain (the horror!) or loss (eat more eat more!) but all with the good intentions of really checking everything is ok with you.

I’m still a rather “hard” person, especially towards people whom I’ve just met. Jet and the maos have soften me up quite a bit so maybe just that but it still takes me a long time to open up to people or show some form of affection towards them. So maybe. Hmm.

I’m not sure if this answered the question oh well. HAHAHA.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.


For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

my family (this includes the 4 legged ones)

merry christmas

au-chew family photo taken during Christmas 2015

have tried to make a conscious effort to spend more time with the family in the last couple of months, cause at the end of the day, they are what matters most.

mom single-handedly raised me and has been a great role model of fearlessness and independence.

jet has got to be the most patient person on this earth to put up with all my idiosyncrasies.

and the maos shown me what unconditional love is. no matter what we do (intentional or not) like feed them late, poke them, hug them when they don’t want to be hugged, they still love us inspite / despite it all. hahaha.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.


Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

1. Our love of clubbing and trance music.

although he prefers more break beats style and i prefer ah beng trashy trance. hahaha. #guiltypleasure. We bonded our love for a  (at that time)  not well known dj when we first met (while clubbing ha!) and the rest as they say, is history.

we went to our first zouk out in 2005 and here we are again 10 yrs later. HAHAHAH.

 

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zouk out 2016.. we’ve come a long way baby

2. The love of traveling.

I think this stems more the need to  get away from the world than the actual need to wander.

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We took a really long walk to take this photo. 

 

Here we are at Annapurna Base Camp in Nepal a couple of years back. It was tiring AF but the view was worth it. That and the food. I swear I put on weight during this holiday. zzzz.

All our holidays generally involve going to some where with lots of nature / off the beaten path type cause we don’t really like people. And even in urban areas like Tokyo or Hong Kong, we still try to go to the parks or take day trips out to escape. We also try to do at least one dive trip a year, it’s nice to literally submerge yourself in the escape.

Actually, now that I’m looking at our travel photos again, I’ve realised it’s either we’re on a

  1. Trek / Mountain
  2. Temple / Shrine
  3. Diving
  4. In a museum / art gallery
  5. Eating (or drinking)

There are seriously so many photos of us eating. WELL.

3. And lastly, maos. even though he will never admit it, we love the maos very much. [OK FINE. Jet is saying this not a thing we have in common. so i guess the next thing we have in common]

3. our love for zombie related stuff.

From zombie shows like 28 days later to zombie games, and even to dressing up like zombies for zombie walks (ok fine that’s just me and he comes along to take photos). We absolutely love it. Rumour has it that the day we ROMed, the au-chews wanted to go a LAN shop to play left for dead. HAHAHHA.

 

zombie wedding

#auchewwedding

 

Here we are on our wedding day. MUAHAHAHHA.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.

 


2016 Book Challenge – march update

given up – secret diary of a london call girl. cannot. it’s tries way too hard.

thinking of giving up – red house by mark haddon. who would have thought that this book would be so augh in the middle.

Completed (yay!) – Yes, my accent is real but Kunal Nayer. Fast and funny read. Loved it. totally had me smiling and laughing to myself on various modes of public transport like a crazy person. I love it cause it’s light, sincere and at the end of the day, he doesn’t take himself too seriously.

Currently reading – Yes Please! by Amy Poehler. love what I’m reading so far. WOOT.

God it’s like 3 months into the year and i’ve only read..4 books out of 40. kill me please.

  1. Book based on fairy tale
  2. National Book Award winner 
  3. YA bestseller
  4. Book you haven’t read since high school
  5. Book set in your home state – emily of emily hill? i’m ashamed to say i’ve never read it.
  6. Book translated to English – Maybe Blindness by Jose Saramago. I’ve watched the movie and it was very disturbing and the reviews seem quite polarised, you either hate it or love it. I’m not sure how I feel about the movie tbh.
  7. Romance set in the future
  8. Book set in Europe – maybe The Red House by Mark Haddon.
  9. Book that’s under 150 pages
  10. New York Times’ bestseller
  11. Book that’s becoming a movie this year  Maybe the Danish Girl. Also, really? WOOL is becoming a movie? I still don’t know how I feel about that series.
  12. Book recommended by someone you just met
  13. A self-improvement book
  14. A book you can finish in a day
  15. a book written by a celebrity – maybe that Mindy Kaling book if i can find it. couldn’t find it. THIS IS DONE. Read Yes, my accent is real by Kunal Nayer. Good stuff. 
  16. a political memoir – hmm. well i have been meaning to read that LKY book. so maybe.
  17. a book at least 100 years older than you
  18. a book that’s more than 600 pages – maybe i’ll get round to finishing A feast of crows by George R R Martin. This is assuming he finishes the bloody series this year.
  19. a book from oprah’s book club
  20. A science fiction novel – THIS IS DONE. I read Parasite by Mira Grant  and it was awesome (it’s also a reread cause I wanted to read the sequel and could not remember much of it, and I don’t care. It still counts).
  21. a book recommended by a family member
  22. a graphic novel – current plan is to read Sandman by Neil Gaiman. I know I know, how is it that I’ve not read this. I do not know but hey at least I’m going to read it now?
  23. a book that is published in 2016
  24. a book with a protaganist who has your occupation – er…
  25. a book that takes place during Summer
  26. a book and its prequel
  27. a murder mystery
  28. a book written by a comedian – i want to read  *READING NOW*  Yes Please by Amy Poehler, if it is anything like Tina Fey’s bossy pants it will be a fun read. [YES IT IS!]
  29. a dystopian novel
  30. a book with a blue cover*READING NOW* This is Done! Symbiont by Mira Grant. Sequel to Parasite (book 20 on this list)
  31. a book of poetry – Recommended by Lisa C. TS Eliot’s Cats.
  32. the first book you see in a bookstore
  33. a classic from the 20th century – maybe catch 22 which has been on my book shelf for the longest time or
  34. a book from the library
  35. an autobiography
  36. a book about a road trip
  37. a book about a culture you’re unfamiliar with
  38. a satirical book – terry pratchett counts right? i have the last few of his books left to read.
  39. a book that takes place on an island
  40. a book that’s guaranteed to bring you joy – Recommended by Wee Jin – Spark Joy, An illustrated master class on the art of organising and tidying up by Marie Kondo. HMMM. the irony of it all considering how messy I am. Most people have forgotten the colour of my desk at work cause it’s always covered with papers.. Er.. organised mess?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

yes. actually.

 

knowing me and my lack of spatial awareness, my gut feel is that I’m going to die in some horrible traffic accident cause I was texting or reading while walking.

I already have some personal rules (?) to try to mitigate this – like for example, I don’t listen usually to music while crossing the road or like cutting through a car park. I’m paranoid my music will be too loud and I won’t hear a car horning me to get out of the bloody way. I also try hard not to text and walk cause I already tend to walk into inanimate objects or trip on flat ground without the extra distraction.

This is part of my on-going mini project to answer all 36 questions that would apparently accelerate intimacy between two strangers by asking a specific series of personal questions. I’m just doing this as a writing exercise and answer one each Sunday.


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